Elspeth Demina

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What wasn’t taught in sex-ed (but you wish had been) June 16, 2011

Filed under: sex-ed — Lorax Of Sex @ 2:30 pm

I am anxiously awaiting the delivery of $120 worth of condoms and dental dams to my door. Orgy at my house? Not quite.

I’m a raver, for those of you who don’t follow my twitter feed. I also work to make raves a safer environment through my association with Stay Safe Seattle, a risk-reduction group who strives to educate and help people make the most informed decisions with regard to drug and alcohol use, as well as safer sex. This weekend we have the first of a series of training sessions to update all our lovely volunteers on the newest information available. I have been asked to teach the safer-sex portion of this, being the self-proclaimed kinky-raver that I am. I’ll be teaching our volunteers about safer-sex for themselves, as well as how to talk about it with those who come up to our booth for information and supplies.

I’m re-compiling my list of safer-sex resources. A lot of what I have isn’t perfect, but is useful (SF City Clinic’s risk chart, and the AIDS Committee of Toronto are two of my favourites). I’m curious what you think are things that folk often aren’t told, what you weren’t told or had to learn for yourself, that I should include? What are your favourite safer-sex practice links, bloggers, and resources? I am particularly looking for queer- and kink-related resources and questions, as these are the things which our volunteers are lacking in information on currently.


Review: GUSH The Official Guide to the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation April 25, 2011

Filed under: DVD,good vibes,reviews,sex-ed,smut — Lorax Of Sex @ 12:00 pm

GUSH front coverGood Vibrations/Good Releasing has recently released the Pleasure-Ed Series, a continuing collection of educational DVDs hosted by Sexologist Dr. Carol Queen. The idea of a sex-ed movie brings back awkward memories of elementary school, sitting in sex-segregated classrooms and being handed a lavender-trimmed mint green pocket pouch covered in inspirational phrases filled with sanitary napkins and tampons, while timidly swatting around an inflated condom as if it were a party balloon. Nonetheless, I’ve been wanting to embark on an exploratory journey of G-Spot stimulation and perhaps learn to squirt, so since they have a DVD on just this subject I figured why the heck not? I asked Good Vibes to send me a copy of GUSH: The Official Guide to the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation, and they obliged.

It was an interesting watch. The DVD consists of a live filming of Dr. Carol Queen answering questions as part of a call-in radio programme, interspersed with sex scenes including such fine folk as Jiz Lee, Dylan Ryan, and Mickey Mod. The scenes are a nice combination of queer, solo, and hetero, and are overall rather hot. They all prominently feature G-Spot stimulation and female ejaculation, as is to be expected. Also included as “special features” are cast interviews, an in-depth interview with Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod, G-Spot Myths with Dr. Queen, and Sheri Winston’s sildeshow on female anatomy, G-Spot location/stimulation & female ejaculation.

First, the radio-show portion of the DVD. This is the educational portion of the movie, by and large. Now, I’m a G-Spot novice- I have spent much of my sexual life keeping my partners fingers and toy manipulations away from my G-Spot on threat of being kicked in the head. I feel like I’m exactly the target audience for this DVD, yet I was underwhelmed by the information put forth. Dr. Queen answered the questions wonderfully and helpfully, don’t get me wrong, though I felt that the questions that she is asked and the information they allow her to share on the DVD were things I already knew, or had learned via reading Cosmo and Maxim. Perhaps I’m more advanced than they had in mind when making this movie, even with my G-Spot novice status. I found myself easily bored and awaiting the next break so I could enjoy more hot scenes.

The sex scenes on this disc is rather nice. I’m a big fan of queer porn when I watch non-kink porn. This certainly sated that appetite, without going to a place where more vanilla minded folk would be turned off. I was particularly fond of Jiz Lee‘s solo scene. I liked that this was one of the few scenes which didn’t rely primarily on the Pure Wand (not that I have anything against the toy)- rather they used an assortment of toys including a rather alluring glass piece which I understand was a custom design. I now covet that bit of glass, and wish I could find something similar for myself. The interview they give in the “special features” portion of the disc is also rather insightful and amusing.

The “special features” are interesting. I loved the cast interviews where they share their thoughts about what is required for them to enjoy G-Spot stimulation, what their preferences are, and personal feelings around squirting. I found these interviews to be more educational than Dr. Queen’s segments in the main portion of the DVD. Dylan Ryan and Mickey Mod have an extended interview which is a combination of thoughts and discussion over their scene from the movie, and Dylan Ryan’s personal experience and description of being able to ejaculate. The slideshow which is also a part of the “special features” however, left me less than impressed. With phrases such as “sacred elixir” to describe female ejaculate and “mound of venus” to describe the mons pubis, it felt a bit gimmicky and odd to me. Again it seemed like information I already knew, and that if someone were looking for a DVD such as this they too likely would already know.

The final offering of the “special features” is a mythbusting section by Dr. Queen which I found to be the most educational and useful. She goes over some anatomy but does so in such a way that really does cover some material that not everyone would know, and she covers the analogous anatomy on male-bodied individuals. The myths she goes over are helpful, and her answers are more in-depth than those of the call-in section of the DVD. I particularly enjoyed her discussion of the various forms of the female orgasm and the suspected neurology behind them. She also covers some suggestions for G-Spot toys, and actually shows the toys rather than just describing them, which I really liked.

Overall, the DVD was entertaining, sexy, and somewhat educational. I feel like this DVD could be much more useful to a wider audience than it is, perhaps a second edition with a bit of a materials tweak? As it is, this is a great video for those who know nearly nothing about the G-Spot, or perhaps for introducing a partner to the idea of G-Spot play and/or ejaculation. If the educational aspect is the icing on the cake for you, the scenes are sexy and hot, and for me they combined with the interviews really made up for the shortcomings of the call-in portion of the DVD. In fact, the more I think about it the more I wish that the call-in portion was the “special feature” and that the mythbusting segment was the main educational body. That would change this from a decent movie and resource into a pretty-darn-good one.

Again, thanks to the wonderful people over at Good Vibrations for the opportunity to watch and review this movie! Want more information on the G-Spot or need help picking out a toy? Check out Good Vibes’ G-Spot & Female Ejaculation Education page. Also, just in case ordering a DVD isn’t your thing, GUSH The Official Guide to the G-Spot and Female Ejaculation is also available as a download as an mp4 for iTunes ready download, as well as Windows Media download, Stream-to-Own, and Pay-Per-Minute. Isn’t technology great sometimes?